How To Stop Fixing People (notes from live video 4/1/2022)
-Fixing others makes you the solution.
-Fixing others robs them of the opportunity to overcome and create joy plus confidence.
-Did they ask for my help or my heart? Don't volunteer your services.
-Are you fixing their problem because the outcome gives you anxiety?
Steps To Take
- Receive what is being said without speaking quickly when problems arise.
-Accept that the experience they are having is theirs to grow and learn from, not yours.
-Notice what is needed. Is this an urgent emergency? Do they need a heart with ears? Am I the wrong resource?
-Empower toward answers. Ask questions or make profound statements that evoke thought. Giving answers and solutions is not curious, loving or always helpful.
